Weddings are often called the happiest day of a couple’s life—but for many people, the months leading up to these big events can be unexpectedly overwhelming. Whether you're the bride or groom, part of the wedding party, or simply attending as family, the pressure to keep everything perfect can bring up stress, anxiety, and even old emotional wounds.
At Lake Area Psychiatry, we often hear from patients who are surprised by how emotionally taxing these milestone events can be. The truth is, weddings (and other major family events) bring together a mix of high expectations, family dynamics, financial strain, and the pressure to perform socially—all of which can take a toll on mental health.
Why Do Weddings Trigger Stress?
Even joyful occasions can act as emotional landmines. Here are a few common reasons why weddings might feel more stressful than celebratory:
- Family Tension: Long-standing family conflicts can resurface when relatives gather.
- Perfectionism: The pressure to create a “perfect day” can spiral into anxiety and burnout.
- Role Overload: Juggling multiple responsibilities—especially for brides, grooms, or parents of the couple—can leave little time for self-care.
- Unrealistic Expectations: Social media portrayals of “ideal” weddings can set the bar impossibly high.
- Change and Transition: A wedding marks a major life shift, which can stir up feelings of loss, uncertainty, or fear of the future.
Signs You Might Be Struggling
Not sure if your stress is crossing a line? Here are signs that it's time to slow down and take care of your mental health:
- Trouble sleeping or persistent fatigue
- Feeling irritable or emotionally reactive
- Avoiding conversations or tasks related to the event
- Panic attacks or increased anxiety
- Persistent sadness or feeling emotionally numb
Healthy Ways to Cope
If you’re feeling the weight of an upcoming wedding or other big family event, you’re not alone. Here are a few practical tips to help ease the stress:
- Set Boundaries – Politely but firmly protect your time and emotional energy.
- Practice Mindfulness – Try deep breathing, journaling, or short guided meditations to stay grounded.
- Let Go of Perfect – Accept that not everything will go exactly as planned, and that’s okay.
- Ask for Help – Delegate tasks or talk to a therapist or mental health provider if you’re feeling overwhelmed.
- Stay Connected – Lean on friends or loved ones who are supportive and nonjudgmental.
On a Personal Note
I recently had the joy of celebrating my own daughter’s wedding, and while it was a beautiful and memorable event, I can personally attest to how stressful the process can be. One person who made an incredible difference throughout the entire experience was Sara Lasher, our wedding planner. Her organization, calm presence, and attention to detail were truly indispensable. If you’re facing a big event, having the right support can make all the difference—for your peace of mind and your ability to be present in the moment.
You Deserve to Feel Present and Peaceful
Family events can be beautiful opportunities for connection, but they can also stir up more than you expected. If you're finding yourself anxious, irritable, or emotionally drained, it’s okay to take a step back and prioritize your mental health.
At Lake Area Psychiatry, we’re here to support you through all of life’s transitions—including the joyful ones that don’t always feel so joyful. Whether you're facing wedding-day jitters or navigating tricky family dynamics, help is available.
Need Support?
If you’re struggling with stress or anxiety related to a family event, our team at Lake Area Psychiatry is here to help. Contact us to schedule a consultation.